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Post by Rob on Jul 17, 2022 19:05:34 GMT -5
This meme is going around on Facebook.  A lot of nondrinkers are chiming in about how they feel pressured to drink at gatherings, and how, when they choose not to drink, are asked why they don't drink. Many of them claim to not be judgmental of people who drink and then, in the next sentence, say something that anyone would take as judgmental. I have friends who sometimes complain that they never get invited to parties because they don't drink. I think the reason they don't get invited to parties is they're snobs toward people who drink. I know they're out there, but I can't think of too many times when people who drink (however much) have given nondrinkers a hard time about their choice. I can, however, think of many times when nondrinkers have given drinkers a hard time about their choice. So, in your opinion, who is the bigger asshole? Drinkers or nondrinkers? Rock n roll. 🤘 |
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Post by martycanuck on Jul 17, 2022 21:38:40 GMT -5
No one should be pressured into drinking so I had to vote “drinkers”
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Post by Rob on Jul 17, 2022 21:55:59 GMT -5
No one should be pressured into drinking Did my words not come out right? I thought my question was, do you think it's more common for drinkers to give nondrinkers a hard time about their choices to not drink? Or do you think it's more common for nondrinkers to give drinkers a hard time about their choices to drink? |
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Post by Jim on Jul 17, 2022 22:04:31 GMT -5
Had a prospective date get canceled tonight when she found out I don’t drink, don’t want to hang out at bars, or be around drunks. In fact , I have had a lot of prospects fizzle out because of that.
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Post by Jim on Jul 17, 2022 22:07:44 GMT -5
Oh, and the meme is wrong. Not smoking pot needs to be explained just as much as not drinking.
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Post by Rob on Jul 17, 2022 22:23:19 GMT -5
Oh, and the meme is wrong. Not smoking pot needs to be explained just as much as not drinking. I've had people ask me why I drink, but no one has ever asked me why I don't smoke pot. |
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Post by Jim on Jul 17, 2022 22:37:39 GMT -5
It became recreationally legal here last year and it seems like everyone is coming out of the pot closet. It seems like it’s more common than alcohol.
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Post by Rob on Jul 17, 2022 22:52:35 GMT -5
It became recreationally legal here last year and it seems like everyone is coming out of the pot closet. It seems like it’s more common than alcohol. It's been legal here for a few years now. I haven't noticed an increase in potheads. Just the same old potheads, but now they toke legally. 🤙 |
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Post by graham on Jul 18, 2022 5:16:42 GMT -5
When I was in the Sixth Form (12th Grade in the USA), aged 16-17 (UK legal drinking age is 18), some of the "lads" would sneak out to a nearby pub and buy beer and would occasionally come back drunk after half a pint of shandy(!)
Their behaviour, and the fact that I don't even like the smell of beer made me decide that I had no interest in trying the stuff or even "getting used to it" to fit in with others.
If getting drunk makes you be loud/ obnoxious/ stupid/ aggressive/ maudlin/ disrespectful of others boundaries/ whatever, then please, feel free not to invite me to your events.
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Post by Gimpy on Jul 18, 2022 9:16:33 GMT -5
As a beer lover who has had to cut back due to certain medications, I've pretty much quit drinking. Assholes on both sides but the drunks being loud and obnoxious, like my ex-wife, bother me. They always have.
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Post by martycanuck on Jul 18, 2022 12:52:24 GMT -5
No one should be pressured into drinking Did my words not come out right? I thought my question was, do you think it's more common for drinkers to give nondrinkers a hard time about their choices to not drink? Or do you think it's more common for nondrinkers to give drinkers a hard time about their choices to drink? Maybe I didn’t read it right but I stand by the answer that if drinkers are pressuring or snubbing anyone who does not drink they need to take a hard look in the mirror and at their reason for drinking. |
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Post by Rob on Jul 19, 2022 0:44:07 GMT -5
I've had nondrinkers give me shit when I'm trying to enjoy my beer. I can't recall a time when I witnessed a drinker giving a nondrinker shit for not drinking.
It's hard for me to believe not drinking is the reason my friends don't get invited to parties. I think the reason they don't get invited to parties is they are always complaining about people and saying stupid shit like, "We never get invited to parties because we don't drink."
It's also hard for me to believe that Jim's dates were cancelled simply because he doesn't drink. I think his attitude is why his dates were cancelled.
Though I drink, I don't get invited to parties either, and I don't think anyone wants to go out with me. Not that I'm looking to date.
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Post by Rob on Jul 19, 2022 2:21:51 GMT -5
To be clear, I don't mean any of this as blanket statements about all nondrinkers and drinkers
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Post by Jim on Jul 19, 2022 6:55:07 GMT -5
I've had nondrinkers give me shit when I'm trying to enjoy my beer. I can't recall a time when I witnessed a drinker giving a nondrinker shit for not drinking. It's hard for me to believe not drinking is the reason my friends don't get invited to parties. I think the reason they don't get invited to parties is they are always complaining about people and saying stupid shit like, "We never get invited to parties because we don't drink." It's also hard for me to believe that Jim's dates were cancelled simply because he doesn't drink. I think his attitude is why his dates were cancelled. Though I drink, I don't get invited to parties either, and I don't think anyone wants to go out with me. Not that I'm looking to date. It may be hard for you to believe but it's completely true. When I've been out and someone asks why I don't drink, I'll just tell them I don't like the smell. Every. Single. Time. they will "accidentally" spill their drink on me within 5 minutes. |
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Post by Jim on Jul 19, 2022 7:10:17 GMT -5
I think his attitude is why his dates were cancelled. They nope out when I tell them that I don't drink and I don't buy alcohol. I don't like being around drunks and "buzzed" is drunk. They don't know how to enjoy themselves without booze. |
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Post by mank on Jul 19, 2022 8:37:23 GMT -5
I have been to tons of parties over the years and hosted a lot of parties. I was even in a fraternity back in college. I can never recall anyone giving anyone a hard time for not drinking or drinking. I do remember people being concerned about some party goers drinking too much and calling them a cab. I guess in this day and age it would be an Uber. I have also had people crash at my house that have had a few too many.
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Post by marm on Jul 25, 2022 8:08:16 GMT -5
My ex was absolutely one who would give people a lot of shit for not drinking, even if they came out, had *a* drink and stopped because driving or needing to be up early or some such. And I saw it often with others when I was in college, as well.
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Post by MalcolmR on Jul 25, 2022 8:14:27 GMT -5
I have a strict policy of not drinking until late in the day, perhaps 9 or 10 pm. I have been known to walk into parties, put the kettle on and brew up. Weird looks, yes, but no-one has ever told me not to.
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Post by Stan on Jul 25, 2022 22:02:10 GMT -5
Never experienced it in either direction, alcohol or pot.
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Post by Juli on Jul 26, 2022 14:44:40 GMT -5
I got it a lot, especially in college, but even in a church group after. Even if I had arranged to be a DD for the group, someone would say that I could still have one. One time, we were at a party at someone's home. For once, they had provided non-alcoholic beverages, previously I had to bring my own or drink water, because a new person was in recovery. Being in recovery was the only acceptable reason for not drinking alcohol.
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Post by Rob on Sept 29, 2022 22:00:46 GMT -5
On Facebook, I follow Budweiser and Miller Lite's official pages, and I think a couple other beers and whiskeys that I enjoy. To keep things fun, Miller Lite and Budweiser regularly ask questions of their followers, such as "Are you having a beer?", "If you could go back in time, what would you tell your 21 year old self?" and other such questions.
In that same spirit, today I posted on Facebook, "When did you last have a beer?" I was thinking of my friends Mike and Mario, and many others who I know like beer as much as I do. Before any of my beer-loving friends could comment, people who I already know don't drink saw this as an invitation to remind me how much they dislike beer.
That upset me and made me uncomfortable about the post, and I deleted it.
I'm sorry for the direction that this topic here on JAD took. I meant for this one to be fun poke at each other, but I think I'm the one who steered it away from what I initially intended.
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